Merging the cultures

A lot has happened since the last blog- hence the silence. Looking at my last post and how I feel now- my feeling could not be any more different. The families from both sides have met- and now the danish and British Pakistani all know about each other. I am now getting used to this lack of secrecy. My new open life, so what triggered this change, marriage. We got hitched.I am questioning why I was so afraid- perhaps it is more how we perceive our culture than how the culture really is that frightens us.

Juggling the cultures

I am beginning to wonder if my life would have been much simpler if I had been raised in one culture. Multiculturism always seems to cause problems, since my childhood I tried to juggle the Pakistani culture with the British, until a pivotal point in my life..the arranged marriage. Fortunately/Unfortunately it did not last long- hence gave me the freedom I was looking for. I have always tried to live as I can please both worlds and now that these two lives- my boyfriend and now fiancee will meet the other life -the great Pakistani girl- which role will I play?

Competition- Is it healthy?

Competition- It makes us strive to win and yet it can make us so unhappy. So when is it ok.. Looking at how the UK perform in sports, something stops us not quite getting there. Could it be that we are not competitive enough? Is it the very thing which makes many of us gringe at the US Americans, that we lack.. the drive to win, is there a horrible trade-off between being likeable and being a winner? I once was shocked after Sep 11. hearing an US lady state that she believed this was due to jealousy, but maybe this very arrogance is what we need to win. The question then is, how can we switch being competitive on and off? I remember how I once (one time from many) gave up the basketball, as it seemed unpolite to keep fighting...Not the worlds best basketball player, but is it not this lack of competitive drive that makes us likeable?
Once we are out of the sports situation, what makes us competitive, now I no longer think it is arrogance but insecurity.